Although I am considered a very, very friendly person, I’ve always found it difficult to make friends. I’ve never been sure why. I had a lot of acquaintances, but to have someone you can call and say “Hey, let’s go grab a bite” had always alluded me. But just when I was finally figuring out how to do that, we moved out of state. It was tough.
I felt like I had to start over from scratch. Get a new job, start a new church, move into a new neighborhood. How was I ever going to find friendship again? Well, it took a few years to settle into our new area. I did meet a lot of people at my job, and little by little, new friendships were formed. Some didn’t last, but that’s okay too. There were lunch dates, which to me is the sure sign of a friendship. I joined a group at my new church, and started to socialize with the other members. More friends! It was wonderful.
But then some conflict came along, and friendships were shattered. This was new to me. I didn’t understand about friends turning their backs on you. I don’t like high drama, or conflict. It’s not my nature to have people dislike me. In fact, I was shocked to find it was even possible. People like me, right? Well, not all the time apparently. Mostly, we just disagreed, and strongly so. It was time to leave the situation, and start over.
But you know what? It all worked out for the best. I didn’t leave the situation alone. I left with another group of like minded souls, and we set out on an adventure. We moved on, put our principles on the line, and started over. It was the best thing that could have ever happened. Was it easy? No. Was it painful? Oh yeah. To be betrayed by those you thought loved you best? Anyone would find that painful. But we came out stronger and closer than ever. We bonded. We grew. We remade ourselves. And the whole problem that caused our departure faded into the background, leaving us with a blessing in disguise.
Now these friends are my dearest ever. We are drawn together in so many ways. We spend so much time together, and never get tired of laughing and talking. If any of us needs help or company, we know who to call. We can disagree, and still come together in love. Finding friendship like this has been one of the best things I have ever done. You just have to keep looking.